Tuesday, February 19, 2013

Do you judge?



Go ahead, admit it.

I'll go first - I do, but I shouldn't and I know that.

I had to do some running around today. Apparently, the province thinks that the best birthday gift they can give you is the need to run errands and give them money. Hold on, I'm not one of *them*, I don't hold governments responsible for simple things like licensing fees, I get the need. What I don't get is why someone, somewhere thinks that I want to be doing these things around (or on, thanks to my procrastinating self, some years) my birthday. Anyway, rant over, moving on...

After my errands, I had to kill time until the Mister was finished work. I hit up a couple thrift stores (people seriously need to thrift cooler things around here, please and thank you), and then headed off for some clothes shopping. Unfortunately, the Mini-Mister had other plans and decided to nap. Since he was terribly overtired and I didn't have the heart to move him, we sat in the parking lot instead. Since *I* wasn't the one fortunate enough to be napping, I started composing a blog post in my head. I do that a lot and I'm not really sure what that says about me. I swear I post more than I actually do because I imagine all these 'posts' that never actually happen. Weird, I know. Another tangent, sorry. 

Anyway, back to judging. It's been something that I've been thinking about a lot lately (not only while sitting in parking lots). I've read about it, talked about it, and witnessed it, more often than I would care to admit. This is reason number one why I'm trying to be more cognizant of my crimes. Witnessing cattiness in the form of judging, is downright infuriating. Feeling like the target of it is even worse. It's something that everyone does though, in some way, shape, or form. I'm told that moms are major offenders, but from what I've seen it's just a woman thing in general. Don't shoot the messenger. It happens at work, among friends, and even by strangers. That's crazy right? I can't be the only one that thinks that.

So what is it all about? Nothing important enough to do it, if you ask me. Anything is fair game when it comes to judging. It can be about; your looks, your personality, your choices, your home, your routine, your expenses, and so much more. Why are these things anyone else's business? They're not. I'm not at all implying that we have to like everyone, or that we have to agree with their choices. What we do have to do however, is respect people enough to not impose our beliefs on them. Just because *you * think that they should have done *this*, doesn't necessarily mean that they should have or that anyone cares to hear your thoughts about it. Also, wouldn't our own lives be better if we didn't have to spend time weighing in on the lives of others? Hmm... Not so crazy, right?

I guess my point is that it's not fair to the folks around you, to assume that you are always right and that your decisions are better. Also, just because everyone is entitled to my opinion, it doesn't mean that they want it (or need it). All this judging leaves me with a sour taste, and makes me scared to associate with known 'judgers' for  fear of being judged too. You catch more flies with honey, and all that...

1 comment:

Leslie said...

I think everyone has their thing that they judge...and I think it's related to the aspects of their life where they choose to expend effort. I'm definitely a judger....in some things. I like good food, and I *try* to look decent when out in public, so if I see you eating/buying Kraft Dinner while in yoga pants...well...you be the judge. But I promise I will never EVER judge someone on the state of their home. ;) I'm not a pot wont to call the kettle black...